I’m guilty. I always thought I was raising my girls to be independent until that day she came to me and said, “Dad, I put the bagel on the plate, but I’m not that good at spreading cream cheese. Can you please do it?” It was at that moment that I realized things were way worse than I thought.
My kid was completely helpless and it was my own fault. My daughter wasn’t lazy; it’s just that by always spreading her cream cheese — either to be helpful or out of my own form of laziness (it was just easier to do it myself), I’d robbed her of confidence in her cream-cheese-spreading abilities.
How you gave birth
I was made to feel guilty about having c-sections. A lot of women love nothing more than to compare stories about their labor. “What’s your birth plan?” they’d ask. The first time I heard this one, I genuinely didn’t know what they were talking about. “Huh?” I said. “You know, are you going to go drug free?” “Have you thought about a home birth?” “Are you using a doula?” A doula? I didn’t even like the sound of that word.
The pressure to feed your kids healthy food
Is it any wonder that moms are becoming increasingly obsessed with every bite that goes into their kids’ mouths? Exhibit A: The millions of mothers like me who think they can go on the culinary down-low, as recommended by books like The Sneaky Chef and Deceptively Delicious.
I don’t know a parent alive who hasn’t bought one of these books in the hopes of tricking their kids into eating a pancake laced with spinach. Personally, I’ve never seen this succeed on any kid in possession of working taste buds.
If there’s one thing that needs to be retired from all dadversations, it’s the gifted talk. When did “gifted” become the “it” label for our kids? It seems like I am constantly hearing about someone whose kid has just been tested for gifted, someone whose kid is about to be tested for gifted, or someone whose kid is starting fires (“I think maybe he’s just gifted!”).
Despite my less-than-fond personal memories of family mealtime, some new studies have been coming out telling us that if you don’t sit down with your kids for “family dinners” you are basically killing their future!
A new study claims that family mealtimes are associated with “such diverse outcomes as reduced risk for substance abuse, promotion of language development, academic achievement, and reduced risk for pediatric obesity.” Great. So basically, if we don’t sit down for dinner all together every night, our kids are going to turn into fat, mute, dumb drug addicts!