5 Ways Parents Can Help Put an End to Bullying

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Bullying is a hot topic. As an educator, I struggle with this as it has an everlasting mark on those that have been exposed to it. Numerous news sites have covered it, from The New York Times to The Atlanticjournalist Emily Bazelon wrote a heart-wrenching book on the subject called Sticks and Stones, and even President Obama has touched on it. It seems everywhere you look, someone is talking about the most dramatic cases, like the instance where a gay student committed suicide after being targeted by what his parents called “intense bullying.”

My girls are young and I always worry it will happen to them or worse, they won’t tell anyone! Whether your child has experienced bullying or you’re just worried about the possibility, there’s a silver lining: psychological research supports the idea that teaching children good coping techniques can significantly decrease bullying — and if it does happen, your child won’t be as scarred by it. Here’s what you can do today to help your child deal with the possibility of bullying tomorrow.

1. Teach assertive coping strategies

Bullying almost always involves a power imbalance, and it’s not just physical strength that matters. Finnish psychologist Christina Salmivalli notes in a 2010 paper that bullies tend to be perceived as powerful and popular. In addition, a study by a pair of German psychologists found that even elementary school-age children engage in bullying by social exclusion. Given the power imbalance, children who are bullied tend to withdraw. Bullying happens to all kids, however, teens are the ones who supper most. Teenage is the crucial year, you should act when you see your teens being bullied.

Natural though it may be, this kind of passive response may only bolster bullies’ perceptions of themselves as physically and socially superior. It turns out passive coping strategies actually tend to reinforce bullying.

The most important skills to teach children in responding to bullying situations include remaining calm, saying “stop” assertively, and seeking adult help. Teaching kids to stick up for themselves can help them feel empowered in a frightening, power-imbalanced situation.

2. Help build emotional intelligence

Dealing with bullying can be extremely difficult for the victim. Getting through stressful situations like this requires what psychologists sometimes call emotional intelligence. Research has shown that building emotional intelligence helps children develop new coping strategies through emotional reasoning.

Emotional reasoning is a critical skill in bullying and conflict situations because it helps children understand why bullies are acting out against them. It can therefore help them understand what is happening and see ways they might act to resolve the issue. Seeing that the bullying is not caused by anything that’s wrong with them, but by the bully’s emotions can help them see their way out. And good news for parents: It’s well established among educational psychologists that it is possible for students to learn emotional intelligence, including the skills needed to deal with bullying.

3. Be a good role model

People learn by observing models. In particular, they emulate those that they perceive to be good at dealing with what life throws at them. For children, these models are almost always parents (or other nurturing, trustworthy figures). But without examples of adults dealing with bullying, children are left not knowing what to do and often fall back on their natural response to simply try to avoid it.

We can teach our children how to deal with bullying by providing them with positive examples. Not only should we not engage in bullying behavior ourselves, but we shouldn’t allow our kids to see us being bullied. The resources kids need to deal with bullying are learned through observation. By seeing their parents model anti-bullying strategies, children can gain the confidence they need to implement them on their own.

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4. Encourage understanding of other perspectives

Of course, no parent wants to be the parent of a bully. But there are times when even well-adjusted children might engage in bullying behavior. We can discourage these kinds of behaviors by urging children to consider things from another’s perspective — namely, the victim’s. It might seem like a challenging task, but psychological research on perspective-taking has shown that children as young as kindergarteners can develop increased awareness that others’ thoughts, knowledge, and feelings are different from their own. They have the ability to draw inferences about people’s intentions from their behaviors and past actions.

As such, when we engage in perspective-taking (like teaching our children empathy), we can get children who might bully to understand how their actions harm the victim.

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5. Consider an anti-bullying campaign (but don’t over-rely on it)

Is your school leading the charge on the anti-bully brigade? That’s great news, but you’re not off the hook quite yet. Because schools often lack the infrastructure, staffing, and resources to effectively implement anti-bullying programs, the evidence on them is mixed. Many programs are designed as one-time interventions, and as a result, they don’t always take time to reinforce the skills they teach. However, there’s research to suggest that anti-bullying campaigns can have an impact if executed properly.

The world isn’t perfect, and your school’s program might not be either. To complement an in-school anti-bullying program, you can teach resilience skills at home. That way, children can venture out into the world fully equipped with the kind of understandings and responses that will help protect themselves and others — including the bullies.

Recommended Reading and Resources

Downloadable Tools from CHOP’s Violence Prevention Initiative

Preventing Aggression in Schools Everyday (PRAISE)

Free2B: Multimedia Bullying Prevention Program

Positive Behavioral Intervention and Support

Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC)

Author: Dear Daddy

Dear Daddy is a writer and publisher for Daddy Blog: Parenting Tips For Fathers. I'm a father of two girls and Educator for 20+ years. I love being a father, although it does have it's challenges. Let's help each other out!

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